This was me.....
Early on as a new parent I was feeling overwhelmed with all the information on how to take care of my baby. It starts even before they are born. Right?! You buy all the baby books, you spend hours online every night, you talk to all your friends. And then, at the end you have all this information and sometimes it’s conflicting information. You have to breastfeed because if you don’t your baby will grow a third arm. It’s ok, if you don’t have breastmilk or you can’t breastfeed then formula is just fine. Make sure you co-sleep so that your baby is securely attached. No, don’t co-sleep or you’ll roll over and suffocate your baby. Make sure you swaddle with a blanket. No, don’t swaddle there should be nothing in the crib. Put your baby to sleep on their stomach. No, put your baby to sleep on their back. And here I was a new mom, confused and hormonal and crying every night saying to myself “I am not a good mom, maybe I shouldn’t have been a parent, wtf am I doing wrong” Am I right? I've been there. And I wish I didn’t have to. I read all the books, I followed all the Instagram accounts and listened to all the podcasts. I might have been half delirious (because who isn’t when you’re a new parent) but I vividly remember those nights. I wanted to make sure I was doing it right and that I was going to be the best parent that I could be. Isn’t that what we all want for our babies? I'll never forget the day when I looked at my tiny human who was in full meltdown mode and I wasn’t sure how to react. Should I be angry, am I ignoring her, should I try talking it through and encourage her to talk through her feelings? What am I doing? How am I failing as a parent? I was more confused than ever. I finally decided things had to change. I immediately went on Instagram and unfollowed all the accounts that no longer served me. I began to dig deep into my training years (I’m a licensed child therapist) and started looking into how to help myself get through this parenting thing with my sanity still intact. For years that followed I did my own thing. I parented in the best way possible without being victim to what society was trying to push on me. Child 2 and then 3 came along. Life was great. I was doing this thing and nobody was going to stop me or tell me otherwise. In this process I learned a thing or two about myself. And I told myself one thing. I was not going to allow society to dictate how I was going to parent my child. Period. I knew that I had to get back to some basic things and that I did. And I want to share it all with you! I made a promise. That promise was to teach every one of you how to free yourself and be the parent you never knew you could be. I worked hard on my parenting journey and Parenting Mastermind was created to share with all of you. I did all the work. I worked through all the things I struggled with. I changed my mentality, my behaviors, my thoughts and beliefs, and most importantly my expectations around parenting. I taught myself that I was enough. That I could do what I wanted to do that worked the best for my family, my child and myself. And I held no space for guilt and shame. I started sharing my work with other moms and then started talking at speaking engagements. Empowering parents to take charge of their parenting one event at a time. I didn’t stop there. I started doing webinars and live events online. Trying to access as many parents as I could. We all know child therapy is expensive and not everyone can afford it so it was my mission to get this information out to as many parents as I could in a fashion everyone could afford. So, I wrote a book, Raising Tiny Boss Babies: Doing it Your Way, available on amazon! And the feedback was astounding. With all the knowledge, I had to figure out a way to make this available to everyone all over the world. PARENTING MINDSET MASTERMIND was born. Today, I spend my time in my clinical practice working with children and also parents. But, I also have built this empire known as The Behavior Boss, that has reached countless parents all over the world.